While searching for my next book to read, I came across [easyazon_link identifier=”0310341051″ locale=”US” tag=”tidbitofexp-20″]Women Are Scary[/easyazon_link] at Book Look Bloggers site to review. It sounded just like my kind of book. Finding female friendships IN PERSON is not exactly something that I’m strong at doing. Yet, in the same token I know the value of having close girlfriends to hang out with.
I’ve ALWAYS been an awkward person to get to know. I use to joke that you either love me or hate me and that there’s no in between. To this day, I still find that statement to really sum up my relationship statuses.
That could be due to my problem-solving personality. I like to get to the heart of situations and try to fix them if possible. I’m NOT afraid of confrontation. I do take criticism to heart and strive to make things right if I can. There are some traits that even I can’t stand about myself, and I’ve strived to change them, but it hasn’t happened yet.
I tend to be a bit protective of my friends. I also strive to give them as much “motherly advice” as I can, and that sometimes makes me come across as a “know it all.” Honestly, that isn’t my true intentions at all.
To say that Women Are Scary to me would actually be an understatement. I have never had many girlfriends growing up. I got along better with the guys. I could relate to their mentality a lot easier. Now I’m married to the love of my life, and I don’t have any close friends anymore. I made the decision to keep all relationships with men as strictly professional only! I do have a few female friends I could call on if I needed them, but it’s not the same as having someone to hang out with on a regular basis.
Reading [easyazon_link identifier=”0310341051″ locale=”US” tag=”tidbitofexp-20″]Women Are Scary[/easyazon_link] gave me a lot of perspectives. I loved learning from another woman how to actually pursue this whole Mom Dating bit. It’s ironic because Scary Mommy just wrote a post about Mom Dating, and I had to laugh because this one was ¾ of the way written when hers went live. The mere fact that her post went live as I was contemplating how to word this without sounding desperate myself made me feel 3x’s better!
If you’re like me and don’t have any close in real life friends, then [easyazon_link identifier=”0310341051″ locale=”US” tag=”tidbitofexp-20″]Women Are Scary[/easyazon_link] is for YOU! I found that I’m NOT alone with this topic because it’s been mentioned time and time again online. Friendships help us stay strong when we’re struggling with personal issues such as depression or family drama. Friendships encourage us to build business ideas and put them into action. Friendships make life better!
Can you relate to this issue?
This book sounds like a good read. I think many women out there can relate to this subject. I know a lot of women who choose to have men as their friends instead of women. I think we are just too darn complicated! 🙂
We are quite complicated. I know I am for sure! I treasure my friendship with you and the rest of the tribe. I just wish I had someone close to me that I could pow wow with from time to time.
I think having a family leaves less time to pursue friendships and I found it much easier when our daughter was young and in school and activities.
Sue, I agree with you completely. This is one reason I wish my kids were in public schools because there was the chance for me to meet other moms. Now the only time I get out and about is when I’m running errands.
Making friends in general is difficult for me as I’m quite introverted. Luckily, I do have a few friends that understand how I operate. I find it’s more fulfilling to have just a few people with meaningful friendships that twenty you might only see once in a while.
I agree that having a handful of people that provide you with meaningful relationships is better than having a lot of them. I think I’m more introverted in person compared to what I am online.
Thank you so much for sharing this post on Fridays Blog Booster Party. Crystal I love your honest evaluation of yourself and your ability to put it into words. I can identify with much of what you have said. I think one problem I have is that I am a very logical thinker and that makes me ask questions that make others feel uncomfortable, like I am questioning them as if I know it all. When in fact I just like to see the logic behind what they have said so that I can understand and learn. Anyway I like your book revue and I should read it.
Thanks again Crystal,
Kathleen
I’m glad to know I’m not the only “interviewee” person around. I love gaining insight into how others really think and feel too. (I think that’s why I love blogging so much!)
going tocheck out this books, looks like a great read. Thanks for sharing with the Book Review Blog Hop
This is a fun book to read. I couldn’t believe that I wasn’t the only one who had this issue.
Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I hope you’ll come back again. (I do try to do at least one book review a week.)
I can relate to this somehow. There are just people who are too much.